10 DONTs of sorority recruitment.
1. Door Stacks- I promise you, no one likes them. Its freaky. Having a bunch of girls stick their head out of a door singing as loud as they can, with big creepy eyes, and smiles. It doesn't show anything about your sisterhood except that you're really good at faking a smile.2. Crying- Ok, well maybe its not as bad. Its just watery eyes or a single tear at preferential ceremony or the end of the skit, but they don't get it. None of these girls coming through understand what this sorority means to you. You can't define it, and they've never experienced anything like it. It will make them really uncomfortable, and leave a really awkward conversation.
3. Synchronized Laughing- You're watching your day one video for 6 parties now, and its getting really old, and you are forcing laughs at every supposed to be funny part. Trust me, it sounds fake, and its once again very creepy. Leave some
sisters out of the room at each party, so that no one sees the video more than two or three times that way fresh laughs will be ready at every party.
4. Matching (Attire)- If you look the same as everyone in the room, its really uncomfortable, and uptight. If you want all the sisters in a sundress, select four or five colors for the sisters to choose from, and have matching shoes. Or you can have outfit rules like any navy top and white bottoms and maybe a red accent. So cute. BTW wearing your sorority's colors is not necessary the best decision. Not every color flatters every girl.5. Matching (Girls)- If your sorority plans exactly which PNM is going to talk to which sister please please please do not make the "God-squad girls" talk to the sisters who participate in bible study, and do not pick the homecoming queen to talk to the homecoming queen, and please do not let the softball player talk to the softball player. Find personality connections. If you see their Facebook photos include campfires and gym shorts, you know the girl is going to value nature, athletics, and is probably very down-to-earth.
6. Booze, boys, bucks, o'Bama, and that other B. This is by far the dumbest rule I've ever heard in my life. But one thing is important, you should never bring up these topics as a sister. Asking "where do you like to go out" will make a PNM poop their pants. They think " I wonder if this girl drinks, I wonder if she means fraternities or just like outside my room, what if she means hooking up, I didn't think we were supposed to talk about this stuff what do I say.. yikes" Yeah just don't.
7. Booze, boys, bucks, o'Bama, and that other B (again). If they bring it up, don't say "we cant talk about that." They have believed they just ruined any chance to come back the next day, and because they asked the question, its clearly important to them. Answer whatever questions they have just don't state personal opinions, that's when you go downhill.8. "Hi Welcome to Alpha Chi Omega" or whatever sorority you're in- Make every welcome a sincere one. I get so sick of the same robotic fake smiles, and every girl repeating the same line over and over again. Its very unnecessary, and starts off everything bad. Just be real.
9. Love Letters- Oh my god. They have talked to so many people, and they don't remember any of their names, if you leave notes on pref. nights with "I'm so happy I got to meet you, and you totally have a place here" leads to "uhh, who is she again? what does this girl want me to say about this letter?" Yes, please don't, IT IS CREEPY.10. Guaranteed Little- By far, the worst thing you could ever say "I totally want you to be my little."
Uh, no. That's what I and every PNM is thinking. They don't know you, and to PNMs big/little is freakin' huge to them. They will never want you to be their big, or join your sorority because you are keeping them from having the choice of who they want as their big/sister, and they now officially hate you. Well not that dramatic, but kind of.
I know a lot of what is said is harsh, but its so dramatically true. Take the time to show the PNMs the real you, and the real sorority. They know you don't clap and sing sorority songs around the dining room all day. Show them the kind of girls you really
are.
Southern Love,
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